Benjamin King

About

Most people contact me after an incident they did not like: a reaction that was louder than they intended, or a moment when they heard someone else's voice emerge from their own mouth. That is usually the trigger, though rarely the actual problem. Raising kids surfaces everything you were not finished with, which is inconvenient and also the most useful thing about it. We look at what got activated and why, without turning the whole hour into an inquiry about your own upbringing. The aim is that the next occasion goes differently, not that you achieve a complete account of yourself. Alongside my practice I supervise newer clinicians, and I spend a lot of that time arguing against unnecessary depth. Depth for its own sake helps nobody. If an incident brought you here, that is a perfectly good reason to come. Most people find the incident itself matters far less once the pattern behind it becomes visible.