Esperanza Reyes

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Why did I not do something at the time? That question arrives in almost every course of this work, usually asked with real self-contempt, and it is the single most misleading question a person can put to themselves. It assumes all the wrong things. Abuse reliably produces exactly the responses that later look like compliance, because those responses were the ones most likely to keep someone safe in the circumstances they were actually in. We examine what your options really were rather than the ones that seem obvious from here. Almost nobody has ever considered that properly before. Hospital and intensive outpatient settings put me alongside a great many people asking themselves that same question years afterwards. The answer is nearly always that they did what worked at the time. If you have been holding that against yourself, get in touch. Doing what worked at the time is not a failure of courage.