Tariq Roberts

About

I believe the single most important thing in this work is that you keep the right to stop. Not as a courtesy, and not as something I say at the start and quietly override later when the material gets interesting. That right is structural. Recovering from abuse requires an environment in which your stated limits are actually enforced. The original difficulty involved limits that were not, and any treatment that overrides them for good clinical reasons repeats the injury. We agree what stop means in advance. I will honour it without argument or visible disappointment. I have been in this work long enough to have seen well-intentioned practitioners push through a refusal because they believed it would help. It does not help. If you need the right to stop to be real, it is real here. Enforced limits are part of the treatment rather than a nicety around it.