Finley Davis

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Is it too late to be doing this now? That question comes from people who lost someone years ago and have only recently found themselves undone by it, and they usually ask with some embarrassment about the timing. It is not too late. A widow of ten years who has never once talked about it properly is not late; they are simply arriving at the point where it became possible. Delayed does not mean disordered. We start from wherever you actually are rather than from where a timeline says you should be, and there is no penalty at all for having waited. I still consider this a craft I am refining, and the people arriving years later have shown me the most about how this actually works. If you think you have left it too long, you have not. Arriving late is still arriving. Timing is not a test you can fail.