Audrey Turner

About

Someone sat in that chair last winter and spent four minutes describing a kitchen. Not the death, not the funeral, just the layout of a kitchen and who used to stand where in it. Then they stopped and said that no one had asked them anything like that before. That is often where the useful material sits. The loss of a loved one is carried in ordinary domestic detail far more than in large statements about feeling. We spend time on the kitchens, the routines, the specific chair nobody sits in now. It sounds oblique and it is generally the fastest route to whatever needs saying. My own route into this profession came late and by an unglamorous road, and I have never developed much appetite for the grand summarizing sentence. Details are more honest than summaries. If nobody has asked you about the small things, I will.