Mei Chen

About

I am a therapist for adults who keep arriving at the same painful point with different people and have started to suspect the common factor is them. That suspicion is usually half right and a lot less damning than they fear. What people call trust issues is generally a very reasonable adaptation to something that actually happened, running long after the situation that required it has passed. We work out what it was protecting you from, whether that protection is still needed, and what it currently costs you. Nobody is asked to simply decide to be more open. After a stretch in administration I returned to clinical work, having missed the part of the job where something actually changes for a specific person. It is also more common than you would guess from the outside. If you keep landing in the same place, that pattern is workable.