Vikram Shah

About

People generally contact me around the point when everybody else has stopped asking. The first weeks bring a lot of attention and then it thins out, and the gap between how supported you were and how supported you are now becomes its own difficulty. That drop-off is very predictable. Grief runs a lot longer than the social conventions built around it, which leaves most people privately struggling at a stage when they are supposed to be recovering. We simply carry on paying attention after everyone else has moved along. That continuity is most of what I offer here. A long stretch in hospital and intensive outpatient work taught me that the difficult phase is often the quiet one after the crisis. If the calls have stopped coming, get in touch. Continuity is unglamorous and it is what most people are actually missing. Sustained attention is the offer.