Luis Wang

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Here is something worth admitting at the outset: many people feel more embarrassed about needing help with this than about almost anything else they might bring to a therapist. There is a peculiar sense that you should have seen it coming, or that being deceived reflects badly on you. It does not. A betrayal is something done to you, and the shame that attaches to the person on the receiving end is one of the strangest and most persistent features of this whole area. We deal with that directly, because carrying someone else's shame on top of your own difficulty is an unreasonable load to be given. I spent years in nonprofit and social-work adjacent roles, and if there is one thing I absorbed, it is that people blame themselves for things well outside their control with remarkable consistency. If that describes you at the moment, reach out.