Hiroko Yamada

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Is this fixable, or am I wasting my time? People ask that early, usually having already spent a year privately deciding one way and then the other without any outside input at all. There is an answer and it is knowable. Whether a relationship is workable depends less on how much conflict there is than on whether both people can still repair afterwards. Repair capacity can be assessed fairly quickly rather than agonized over indefinitely. We look at that directly. Knowing sooner is better in either direction. Hospital and intensive outpatient settings taught me that the useful question is usually more specific than the one being asked. If you have been deciding both ways for a year, get in touch. An answer either way beats another year of deciding both. Agonizing privately for another year is the one option that reliably helps nobody, and it is the one most people choose by default.