Javier Cruz

About

The person who usually finds me is scrupulously fair in every other area of their life and completely unable to extend that fairness to one particular situation. They know the suspicion is disproportionate. Knowing has not helped. Trust issues of that kind are rarely about the current situation at all, which is why arguing about the evidence goes nowhere. We work on the mechanism rather than the case file, and we do it without asking you to pretend to a confidence you do not feel. Pretending has usually already been tried and found wanting. I practiced in group settings for a long period before working alone, and the recurring lesson was that people cannot be argued out of a feeling by anybody, including themselves. Something else is required. If arguing with yourself has failed, get in touch. We go slowly enough that nothing has to be forced, and I will not ask you to perform a confidence you do not yet have.