Yusuf Rahman

About

Is it normal to still feel this flattened, long after everyone around you seems to think you should have bounced back by now? That quiet question sends more people to my door than any dramatic breakdown ever does. The honest answer is yes, and also, you do not have to carry it by yourself. The loss of a loved one does not run on the schedule other people expect, and pretending otherwise only adds shame to sorrow. In here, we throw out the timeline. We look plainly at what has actually changed: the routines that no longer make sense, the plans that quietly died with them, the identity you held as someone's person. Then we rebuild, slowly, one honest hour at a time. I began in research, studying loss from a careful distance, until I realized I wanted the room and the actual person in it far more than the data. I am steady, plainspoken, and not in a hurry. If part of you suspects it is time to stop managing this alone, that suspicion is usually right, and I am here when you decide to act on it.