Audrey Young

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What if I am wrong about this? That question sits under a lot of what gets discussed here, and it is usually asked with real fear, as though a mistake would be both irreversible and humiliating. It would be neither. Sexuality is not a claim you file that then binds you permanently, and revising your understanding of yourself is an ordinary human activity rather than evidence of unreliability. We make room for provisional conclusions and for changing them later. Nothing you work out in here has to be defended afterwards against a version of you who saw it differently. I think of this as unfinished craft, and this area especially has shown me how often people are held up by a fear of appearing inconsistent. Consistency is overrated. If that question has been holding you in place, get in touch. Provisional is a perfectly respectable way to hold something, and it can be held that way for years.