Mei Suzuki

About

The person who usually finds me is capable, well-regarded, and quietly maintaining two versions of themselves that do not overlap. One version goes to work and to family gatherings. The other exists mostly in private, and the effort of keeping them apart has started to show. That split is what brings most people to me, more than any specific question about sexual identity itself. Maintaining it is draining in a way that is difficult to convey to anybody who has never had to do it. We look at what that division is costing, what it is really protecting you from, and whether any of the walls could safely come down. Before this I held nonprofit and social-work adjacent posts, where I met a lot of people managing this under real constraints rather than theoretical ones. I take the constraints seriously. If you have been running two versions, come and put one of them down for an hour.