Heather Brown

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I will be honest: some people arrive concerned that talking about it regularly will keep the wound open, and that a certain amount of avoidance is what allows them to function. That concern is reasonable and it deserves taking seriously rather than dismissing. My experience is the opposite. Grieving in a contained hour once a week tends to make the rest of the week easier rather than harder, because the material stops arriving unbidden at inconvenient moments. We keep it bounded on purpose. You are not obliged to be sad in here, and you are not obliged to be composed anywhere else. Crisis work came at the very start for me, and it left me unafraid of strong feeling in a room. Nothing you bring will unsettle me. If you have been avoiding it deliberately, that is worth discussing. Bounded is more sustainable than either constant or avoided.