Megan Jackson

About

This is the part most people arrive without: the shame is the part that responds fastest. People arrive expecting the memories to be the hardest element and are surprised to find that the memories become manageable well before the self-blame does, and also that the self-blame lifts more completely than they had dared hope. That order surprises everybody. Survivors almost universally hold themselves responsible for some portion of what happened, usually in a way they would never apply to another person in identical circumstances. We examine that discrepancy directly. It rarely survives close inspection, and its collapse tends to bring a lot else down with it. Caregiving surrounded me growing up and noticed early how readily people take on responsibility that was never theirs. It is one of the more predictable human habits. If you have been holding yourself responsible, get in touch.