Ethan Reed

About

The thing I have come to trust most is that people know what they need and rarely give themselves permission to want it. Almost everybody can tell me, if asked directly, exactly what would help. Very few of them have acted on it. So I ask directly. Bereavement generates an enormous amount of well-meaning advice, most of it contradictory, and the person at the centre usually stops consulting their own judgement somewhere in the middle of it all. We put your judgement back at the centre. It is generally better than the advice was. By design I carry a small caseload, which means I remember the names, the dates, and which anniversary is coming next. Those details matter more here than in almost any other work. If you have stopped consulting yourself, get in touch. Your judgement is usually the best instrument in the room.