David Collins

About

The longest lesson of my working life is this: people almost always make sense. Behavior that looks baffling from the outside is usually a reasonable answer to a question nobody else can hear yet. Communication patterns are where those hidden questions surface, so that is where I look first. I began this work on a college campus, sitting with young adults sorting out who they were, and it left me with lasting regard for how much people grow once someone takes their inner logic seriously. In our sessions I slow the tape down, sometimes to single frames, until the sense underneath the conflict becomes audible to both of you. I think out loud with you rather than at you, and I leave generous silences for the true thing to arrive in. If your conversations at home keep landing wrong, there is a logic to that too. Come find it with me.