Luis Lopez

About

The first hour is calmer than most people anticipate. You will both get to say what you came to say without being interrupted by me or, for that stretch, by each other, and I spend most of the time working out how the two of you operate rather than what either of you did. By the end I can usually describe your communication patterns back to you in a way that both of you recognize, which tends to be the moment the room relaxes. Being described accurately, without blame attached, is unexpectedly disarming. That is where the actual work becomes possible. I keep a small caseload so that I can hold the details of a particular pair in mind between one session and the next. Generic advice is worse than useless here. If you want to be described rather than judged, get in touch. Nobody leaves that hour having been assigned fault.