Emily Roberts

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Here is the honest difficulty: many people put off this conversation because they are not sure they are entitled to have it, having not reached any conclusion they could state clearly. The absence of a conclusion feels disqualifying. It is not. Gender identity questions do not require a settled answer before they can be discussed, and in practice the discussion is usually what produces whatever answer eventually arrives. We start from uncertainty as a legitimate position rather than as a preliminary stage to be got through quickly. Nothing needs resolving for the hour to be worth having. Community mental health gave me my training, where I met a great many people waiting until they were certain before asking for anything at all. Almost none of them needed to wait. If you have no conclusion yet, that is a fine place to begin. Uncertainty is a legitimate starting position.