River Hughes

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With enough years in this field, what I am surest of is that the shame belongs to someone else and is almost never filed that way. People arrive carrying it as though it were theirs, having never seriously questioned the allocation. Re-allocating it is much of the work. Abuse reliably transfers shame from the person responsible to the person affected, which is one of its more durable effects and one of the least discussed. We examine the transfer directly. It rarely survives being looked at properly, and its departure changes a lot else. By design I carry a small caseload, because this particular piece of work requires time and cannot be hurried along to suit a diary. If you have been carrying something that was never yours, get in touch. Shame that was never yours tends not to survive inspection. Allocation is the whole question, and it was misallocated from the start.