Raj Iyer

About

A client once read me her own dating profile, stopped halfway through, and said the person on that screen sounded lovely but did not feel like anyone she knew. That gap, between the presented self and the felt self, is where my work lives. So much of dating is really an ongoing negotiation with yourself about what you deserve, and that inner negotiation is exactly what we take on together. We look at who you choose, who you avoid, what you tolerate, and where each of those habits was first learned. Alongside my client work I supervise newer clinicians, which keeps my thinking sharp and my methods honest, because nothing tests your ideas like explaining them. My encouragement is the quiet kind: fewer pep talks, more steady and genuine confidence in you. If your search keeps landing on the same person with a different name, come talk with me. There is a pattern in there, and patterns can be changed.