Rebecca Stewart

About

Am I allowed to still be figuring this out? That question comes up constantly, usually from someone who has absorbed the idea that self-knowledge should have been settled years ago and that continuing uncertainty is a kind of failure. It is not a failure. Sexuality is not a fixed fact that everybody else established in adolescence and you somehow missed, and plenty of people find their understanding shifts well into adulthood. We treat the not-knowing as a legitimate place to be rather than a waiting room you have to leave quickly. There is no deadline here and no correct destination. I supervise newer clinicians as well as running my practice, and the error I most often have to point out is the urge to help someone arrive somewhere. Arrival is not the job. If you have been made to feel late, get in touch and we can take the pressure off.