Sebastian Bell

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Why is this so much harder than it looks from outside? That question comes up constantly, usually from someone whose situation would sound entirely manageable if you described it in a single sentence. The answer is that the sentence leaves out the machinery. Life transitions disrupt dozens of small automatic things at once, and each one individually is trivial while the total is really heavy. Nobody sees the total, including the person carrying it, which is why the experience feels so disproportionate from the inside. We count it up properly. Seeing the full list is often an immediate relief. This is still a craft I am working on, and this area in particular has taught me to distrust how situations sound when they are summarized. Summaries always omit the machinery. If your situation sounds fine and does not feel it, get in touch. Nobody here is going to tell you it sounds manageable.