Kevin Zhang

About

Over many years of practice, what strikes me most is how rarely anyone is being unreasonable on purpose. Almost every reaction that looks excessive from the outside makes complete sense once you know what it is responding to. What gets labelled trust issues is a good example: from the outside it appears disproportionate, and from the inside it is a sensible precaution against something that really happened. We start from that assumption. Nobody here has to justify why they feel what they feel before we can begin working on it. My practice grew almost entirely by recommendation, which in this area I take as evidence that people did not feel pathologized in the room. That is the standard I aim for. If you have been told you are overreacting, come and get a second opinion. Feeling something disproportionate does not make you unreasonable; it makes you someone with a history.