Jian Chen

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I will say the awkward thing: paying someone to help you make a decision can feel absurd, particularly when the decision is not a catastrophe and you are an otherwise capable adult. A good many people talk themselves out of it on exactly those grounds. That reasoning does not hold up. Standing at a crossroads is one of the few situations where an outside view is demonstrably more useful than more of your own thinking, and capability has nothing to do with it. Capable people get stuck in exactly the same way. The stuckness is structural rather than a reflection of how clever anybody is. I have watched extremely able people circle a decision for two years and resolve it in six weeks once someone else was in the room. That is not a comment on them. If absurdity has been the objection, it is not a good one.