Arjun Vargas

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I will say the awkward thing first: talking about this with a stranger can feel more exposing than almost any other topic, because it touches directly on whether you are wanted. Most people approach it obliquely for several sessions before saying what they actually mean. That is fine and there is no hurry. Dating in particular seems to attract more private shame than it deserves, and a lot of what people are embarrassed about turns out to be entirely ordinary once it is said aloud. We work at whatever pace lets you be accurate rather than presentable. Community mental health shaped my early practice, where the range of what I encountered made it very difficult to be surprised by anything at all. You are unlikely to manage it. If you have been approaching this obliquely, you can be direct with me. Accuracy is the only thing I need from you, and it can arrive slowly.