Samuel Toussaint

About

My belief about this work is that it should reduce the number of difficult evenings, not merely explain them. Insight that does not change a Tuesday evening is of limited use to someone who still has to get through Tuesday evening. So we stay close to the specifics. Parenting problems are almost always concrete, and they respond much better to concrete work than to general theories about family dynamics. We pick the situations that recur, we work out what is actually happening inside them, and we change one thing at a time until the evenings get easier. I keep a deliberately small caseload, which means I can remember the details of your household without consulting notes. In this work the details are the whole thing. If you want fewer difficult evenings, that is a reasonable place to aim. We keep going until the specific evening you dread has become unremarkable, and then we pick the next one.