Skylar Cook

About

Will I ever stop thinking about this? That is the question I am asked most often, usually in the first ten minutes, and usually by someone who has not slept properly in weeks. The answer is yes, though not by trying to stop. Infidelity lodges in the mind exactly because it is unresolved, and the thinking is an attempt to solve something that cannot be solved by thinking. We work on that mechanism rather than instructing you to move on, which is advice you have doubtless received already and which has been of no use whatsoever. I spent my first working life in a different field entirely and came to this later, which perhaps makes me less inclined to treat anyone's situation as a case study. Yours is not a case study. It is a specific problem with a specific answer. If that question is keeping you awake, get in touch.