Priya Patel

About

The assumption I most often have to correct is that my job is to decide whether the marriage should continue. It is not. People arrive braced for a verdict and are visibly surprised when none is coming. What I actually do is help you understand what happened and what you want, which are two different questions and both take longer than people hope. A betrayal of this kind detonates your sense of what was real, and before any decision is worth making you need to be able to think clearly again. We work on that first. The decision, when it comes, will be yours and it will be better for having waited. Before this I spent time in nonprofit and social-work adjacent roles, where I learned not to hand people conclusions they had not reached themselves. That habit has served this work particularly well. If you are being rushed toward a decision, come and slow it down.