Jian Park

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The myth worth dispensing with is that you should be able to handle this alone if you are a capable adult. It is a strangely persistent idea and it keeps a lot of competent people struggling privately for far longer than necessary. A transition is exactly the situation where an outside perspective earns its cost, because you cannot see the shape of something while you are standing inside it. That is not a failure of insight on your part, it is geometry. We supply the outside view and you supply the knowledge of your own life, which is a reasonable division of labor and works a lot better than either half alone. My first setting was crisis services, which gave me a durable dislike for the idea that help should be reserved for emergencies. It should not be. If you have been handling it alone on principle, the principle is not serving you.