Ella Sullivan

About

I believe the most useful measure of progress here is what happens when nothing is happening. Not how you cope in a genuine crisis, which is usually excellent, but what the baseline looks like on an unremarkable afternoon with nothing to manage. That is where the cost lives. Hypervigilance is invisible during real emergencies because it looks exactly like competence, and it only becomes obvious when you notice the same alertness running during a quiet evening at home. We measure the quiet evenings. Improvement shows up there long before it shows up anywhere dramatic or obvious. People find me through other people, generally ones who were surprised to discover that their ordinary evenings could feel different. That is the change worth aiming at. If your quiet evenings do not feel quiet, get in touch. The baseline is where the real change shows up first, and it is the thing I watch most closely.