Katherine Miller

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Is something wrong with me for still feeling this? That question arrives in my room more than any other, usually from someone who has been told, kindly and often, that it has been long enough. It has not been long enough. Grieving does not run on a schedule that other people can set for you, and the pressure to appear recovered often does more damage than the loss itself. We look at where that pressure is coming from, what you have been hiding in order to keep other people comfortable, and what it would mean to stop doing that. There is usually a lot of anger underneath it, and anger is welcome here. I supervise newer clinicians as well as running my own practice, and the mistake I see most often is rushing someone toward resolution. I do not do that. If you have been wondering whether you are taking too long, I would like to answer that question properly.