Vikram Khan

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I will admit the awkward part first: asking for help with this often feels like conceding that the household arrangement has beaten you. Many people wait until things are a lot worse than they need to be before they make the call. Co-parenting with someone you are no longer with is a really difficult logistical and emotional task, and doing it badly is the default rather than a personal failing. We work on the practical mechanics, on what to do with the anger so that it does not travel to the children, and on which battles are actually worth having. I spent time in nonprofit and social-work adjacent roles, where I saw a great many families make this work under conditions that were far from ideal. It is possible. If you have been waiting for it to get worse before asking, you do not have to wait.