Ella Green

About

The person who usually finds me is exceptionally good in a crisis and completely lost on an ordinary Sunday. Emergencies are legible to them. Unshaped time is not, and it tends to produce a restlessness they cannot account for. That pattern has a familiar origin. Childhood wounds often produce adults who are calibrated for difficulty and disoriented by its absence, because calm was the least predictable condition in the house they grew up in. We work on tolerating ordinary time. It sounds like a modest goal and it is often the hardest part of the work. I have seen a great many people who can handle anything except a quiet weekend. It is one of the more reliable signatures of this. If emergencies suit you better than Sundays, get in touch. Ordinary time is a capacity that can be built. Most people are surprised how much of it they can tolerate.