Robert Miller

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The idea I would like to dispel is that suspicion can be resolved by producing enough evidence. People spend years supplying reassurance and receiving it, and are baffled that the arrangement never holds for very long. Evidence is not the missing ingredient. What get labelled trust issues are rarely sustained by a shortage of proof, which is why each new piece of it satisfies for a shorter interval than the last one did. We work on what the checking is actually for, which is nearly always something other than information. That is a slower route and it is the one that holds. I was raised around caregiving, in a house where reassurance was the standard response to everything. It rarely landed. If reassurance keeps expiring, get in touch. What the checking is for matters more than whether it is justified. Proof was never the missing element, which is why supplying more of it changes nothing.