Skylar Evans

About

People generally reach out when something good has started and they have begun sabotaging it. The pattern is recognizable from the inside, which makes it especially frustrating: you can watch yourself doing it and carry on regardless. That helplessness is the giveaway. Attachment responses are not under conscious control at the moment they fire. That is exactly why insight has not stopped you, and why the work has to happen slightly earlier in the sequence than the point where you notice. We move upstream. That is where the choice actually exists. I am still refining how I do this, and the timing question is the one that has changed my practice most. Upstream is where it works. If you are watching yourself do it, get in touch. Upstream is early enough to still have a choice. Noticing is already too late in the sequence, so we work earlier than that.