Sofia Sullivan

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I believe the single most important variable in this work is whether the person feels they are steering. Everything else follows from that, and where it is absent almost nothing useful happens regardless of how good the technique is. So you steer. Survivors of any kind of difficult history have generally had the experience of things being done to them without consent. A therapy that reproduces that dynamic, however skillfully, is not going to help. We agree on each step in advance, you can veto any of it, and changing your mind carries no penalty of any kind. That is not politeness; it is the mechanism by which the work actually functions. My earliest clients came through school and university counseling, where the people I saw had almost no control over their circumstances and responded strongly to having some in the room. That lesson stuck. If you want to be the one steering, get in touch.