Takeshi Tanaka

About

The idea I would like to correct is that the person who was deceived holds all the power in what follows. In practice they usually feel they have none, having lost the ability to rely on their own read of a situation, which is the more disabling loss. That is the actual injury. Rebuilding trust is therefore less about extracting promises and more about restoring your confidence in your own judgement, which is the thing that was really damaged. We work on that first. It is also the part that helps regardless of what you eventually decide to do. Before this I held nonprofit and social-work adjacent posts, where I learned that the visible problem is rarely the disabling one. If you have stopped trusting your own read, that is the place to start. Your own judgement is the thing worth repairing first. That is where we start.