Aisha Hussein

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If you take one thing from this page, take this: most difficulties are not caused by incompatibility. They are caused by two people repeating a sequence they both dislike and neither can stop unilaterally. Partners who come to me usually arrive with a list of grievances and leave with a description of a pattern, which is a much more workable thing to have. Once you can see the sequence, you can interrupt it at any point, and either person can do that without waiting for the other to go first. That is the part people find most useful. I practiced in group settings for years before working alone, and watching the same dynamics play out across many different rooms made the patterns impossible to miss. They repeat. If you are stuck in a sequence you both hate, get in touch. Seeing the sequence is most of the work, and it is available to either of you.