Robert Diaz

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The message usually arrives after someone close has said something careful. A partner asking why you never sleep, a friend noticing you have stopped coming to things, a colleague remarking that you seem far away. It is rarely the person themselves who decides. Being noticed is a common route in. Survivors are often the last to conclude that anything needs attention, having normalized the arrangement over many years, and an outside observation is often what makes it visible. That is a perfectly legitimate reason to book something. Nobody has to arrive with their own fully formed conclusion about what is wrong. I have met a great many people who came because someone else was concerned and stayed because they found it useful. Borrowed motivation counts. If someone said something careful to you, get in touch. Someone else noticing is a perfectly good starting point. Borrowed motivation is still motivation, and it counts.