Robert Achebe

About

I will be honest about something first: making this particular appointment is harder than most. Talking about someone who died means saying their name out loud to a stranger, and many people put that off for a year or more before they finally do it. There is no schedule you are behind on. The loss of a loved one reorganizes an entire life, and the world tends to expect you back at full capacity long before that reorganization is anywhere near finished. In here we take the actual timeline seriously. We can talk about the person, or about the practical wreckage, or about the guilt that shows up uninvited, in whatever proportion you need on a given week. I grew up in a family where caring for people was simply what you did, and I learned early that sitting with someone through a bad hour is its own kind of usefulness. I do not try to move anyone along. If you have been putting this off, that is an ordinary place to begin.