Finley Murphy

About

Most people contact me a few weeks after they found out, once the initial chaos has subsided enough for them to realize this is not going to resolve itself. The first days are pure adrenaline. It is the fourth week that sends people looking for help. By then the question has usually changed from what happened to whether anything can be repaired. Rebuilding trust is possible, though it is slower and less linear than either person wants, and it requires something specific from both of them rather than simply time passing. We look honestly at whether those conditions actually exist in your situation. I trained as a researcher before moving into clinical work, and I never lost the habit of asking what the evidence actually shows. In this area the evidence is more hopeful than people assume, though not unconditionally so. If you are at the fourth-week stage, write to me.