Carmen Ortiz

About

Most people contact me at one of two moments: immediately, when the shock is still total and they need somewhere to put it, or about eighteen months later, when everyone else has moved on and they have discovered that they have not. Both are the right time. Grief has a long tail and it rarely respects the sympathy calendar, which tends to expire well before the feeling does. We work on what is actually in front of you now, whether that is the raw early period or the strange, isolating stretch afterwards when you are supposed to be fine and are conspicuously not. A long stretch in hospital and intensive outpatient work put me alongside a great many people on the hardest day of their lives, and it left me steady rather than solemn. You will not find me treating you as fragile. If either of those two moments is where you are, get in touch.