Katherine Turner

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The thing I have become most certain of is that people are far less unusual than they privately believe. Almost everybody who raises this with me thinks their particular configuration of feelings is uniquely complicated, and almost nobody is right about that. There is enormous variety and very little that is really rare. Sexuality in practice is a lot messier and more individual than the tidy categories available for describing it, which is why so many people conclude they do not fit anywhere. Not fitting the categories is the norm rather than the exception. We work with your actual experience rather than trying to file it. I spent a stretch in administration before returning to this work, and what drew me back was the specificity of individual lives. Categories are administrative conveniences. If you have concluded you are uniquely complicated, I suspect you are not. Your actual experience does not owe anybody a clean label.