Amina Rahman

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What I have learned is that people conduct extraordinarily detailed risk assessments in their heads and almost never write any of it down or say it aloud. The whole calculation happens internally, on repeat, at three in the morning. Getting it out of your head changes it. Coming out involves genuine risk in some situations and almost none in others, and the internal version rarely distinguishes between the two because it treats every conversation as equally dangerous. We separate them properly. What emerges is usually a much shorter list of really difficult conversations than the one you have been carrying. I came to this as a client with exactly this sort of internal ledger running. Saying it out loud shortened it a lot. If your calculations run at three in the morning, get in touch. The list is nearly always shorter once it has been written down.