Yuki Achebe

About

My typical client answered every message today except the ones about themselves. They are competent, dependable, and running a quiet deficit that nobody around them has noticed yet. The pressures of a life like that accumulate in a way that is easy to dismiss, because no single item on the list is unreasonable. It is the total that does the damage. None of it is dramatic, which is exactly why it goes unaddressed for years. We take an inventory, we find where the leaks are, and we practice the deeply uncomfortable art of saying no to someone who will be disappointed. We also look at what happens in the days afterward, which is reliably less catastrophic than predicted. I grew up in a household organized around caregiving, so I know the appeal of being the one who never needs anything. I also know the bill comes due. You are allowed to need things. If any of that lands, write to me.