Katherine Miller

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My belief is that this work fails when it becomes a forum for stating grievances more effectively. If the hour is spent building better arguments, both people leave sharper and no further forward than they were. So I interrupt. Couples who make progress are the ones who stop trying to win the session and start noticing what the two of them do together. That is a different activity entirely, and a lot less satisfying in the short term. We aim at the pattern rather than the verdict. Nobody is going to be declared right in here. I hold only a small number of clients at once, which lets me remember your specific sequence rather than a general theory of conflict. If your sessions elsewhere became debating practice, get in touch. Nobody needs to be declared right for this to work. Winning the hour and improving things are different projects.