Megan Thomas

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What this work has shown me most clearly is how much energy people spend anticipating other people's reactions. A lot of the difficulty is not the thing itself but the tiring imaginative labor of predicting how forty different people will respond to it. We spend real time on that. Questions about sexuality are often less troubling to the person than the anticipated audience is, and separating the two is often the first really useful thing that happens here. Once you can tell the difference between your own uncertainty and your forecast of everyone else's opinion, both become a lot more manageable. My caseload is deliberately small because this work asks for continuity and I would rather know your particular circumstances properly. Generic reassurance is worse than useless. If you have been running everybody else's reactions in advance, come and set that down.