Stephanie Allen

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People generally reach out when the usual approach has stopped landing and the household has settled into a pattern of standoffs that nobody is winning. Often it follows a specific argument that went further than anyone intended. Teenagers change the terms faster than most adults can adjust, and strategies that worked for years can stop working within a matter of months. That is not a failure of consistency on your part. We work out what is actually being negotiated underneath the surface argument, and we find a position you can hold without escalation. I still consider this a craft I am refining, and adolescence in particular keeps me honest, since anything that sounds too confident is usually wrong. I will not give you rules that ignore your actual household. If the standoffs have set in, get in touch. What holds is a position you can actually sustain when you are tired.