Erin Bell

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What has become clearest to me is that people rebuild competence in one area at a time and then judge themselves on all of them at once. They are getting better at the practical things while feeling nothing has improved, because the emotional part has not moved yet. That mismatch causes an enormous amount of despair. Starting over produces uneven progress by nature, with some capacities returning quickly and others taking a year or more. Measuring the whole enterprise by the slowest one guarantees a sense of failure. We track them separately. Seeing them apart usually reveals that a lot more has changed than it felt like. I have found that a simple list of what has improved is often the most useful thing I do in a month. If you are judging everything by the slowest part, that is worth correcting. Tracking them separately is what makes the progress visible.